Many of you got the original save the date card for the wedding. The STD referenced the "Get Hubbied" art project we were doing in conjunction with some two dozen artists. Many of you talked to us about our wedding planning in the early days of the planning -- fall 2010 through spring 2011 -- when we were doing this whole Get Hubbied thing. Most of you know by now that we are no longer doing that.
There's no point in going into the gory details of why the project went off the rails, but suffice it to say that there was a mutual agreement that the project was not working. For us, this was to be our wedding which we were allowing a bunch of artists to have free reign with. For the curating artist, this was to be an art project for which we should be grateful to have such illustrious participation. Ultimately we were not able to see eye to eye on the extent to which it was a wedding versus the extent to which it was an art project. As one of our friends snarkily commented, we "weren't sensitive enough to the fact that this is going to be the artist's special day."
So it's a shame. We were bummed because the basic idea -- having a discussion about the ideas of marriage and wedding as cultural forms -- remains a very good one. Why do people get married? Why do we have the ceremonial traditions we have? Before affirming these things (as we're obviously doing), let's explore them a little and find a way to talk about the challenges, the objections to the institution & the ceremony.
We hope that we'll still find some ways to do this. And that it'll be fun, too. But it won't be with professional artistic collaborators.
(˙sʞool ʇı pooƃ ʍoɥ ʇnoqɐ ɹǝɥ ǝɹnssɐǝɹ oʇ ǝuıu puɐ 'ʇı ǝƃuɐɥɔ oʇ ǝuo ˙uǝʇ)
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